from my state – literally and figuratively – and other places. i'm not in florida any more, but i haven't given up the sunshine.


well excuse me for wearing cargo shorts

… and her for wearing a baseball cap.

so this weekend at the laundromat this guy looked at linds and i and asked, ‘who’s the man?’ we walked away. he followed, sat down next to us and continued: ‘who’s the man … you know, in your relationship?’ moments later another guy walked up saying ‘what you’re doing isn’t right. leave them alone and go talk to your buddy.’ there really are good people in the world.

the man who spoke up for us later told me he was embarrassed and didn’t want us to think all black people are as ignorant and the harasser. well of course i would never think that. but the truth is, i’ve entertained some of the most ridiculous and ignorant questions from nice looking white boys - sometimes with the seemingly obligatory lesbian 101, other times with simple retort. one has to wonder if it’s different coming from them because of who they are or because the questions are asked in ‘friendly’ territory.

either way the shock is always the same. and the frustration of the moment is second only to the morning after - when i wake up and think of a much wittier response than whatever actually fell out of my mouth at the time.


Blogger Amanda said...

No kidding--that shock is what keeps us from accessing our clever, lesbionic gifts of sarcasm and wit. That's really cool that a stranger stood up for you guys. T and i get the "are you sisters?" question AT LEAST once a day, and when we say "no" there's always the blank stare and sudden realization of why we are affectionate with each other and strangely (to the untrained eye) fraternal-looking. One of these days i'll have the nerve to say, "We're sisters in the STRUGGLE!"

6/27/2005 03:19:00 PM

Blogger Cindy said...

Mechi and I don't have this problem much, gross guy at Dania Pier excluded. It may be that we are a little more "hardened" in our lesbian look, especially when together, or that we often have a "don't f--- with us" air. We are rarely if ever approached in that way. One great advantage of getting older is you feel less compelled to explain yourself.

There is little to be done with ignorance and stupidity. I have no doubt that he thought he was being funny and you might find him charming. It is the same tactic as the little boy who liked you in first grade so he pulls your hair.

Just keep being your cute and cuddley selves including wearing your cargo shorts when you want.

We had a great time on Saturday

6/27/2005 04:25:00 PM


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