from my state – literally and figuratively – and other places. i'm not in florida any more, but i haven't given up the sunshine.


kings, queens, and in betweens

boys rockin the stage
boys rockin the stage,
originally uploaded by sunshineandbeyond.
drag queen shows these days have really surpassed the rest of the homosexual community with their leap into the mainstream. stuffing a bill into the cleavage of a dancing queen is nearly as commonplace during a night on the town as ordering a vodka tonic.

the drama kings were recently in town. i love a drag show. queens, kings, in-betweens - doesn’t matter. it’s the kind of event where people are invited to throw off most of their usual inhibitions and just have a good time.

yet when a biological female straps her breasts down, throws on a cowboy hat and hard packs her wranglers for a lip sync performance of honky tonk badonkadonk the discomfort – particularly among lesbians and not because that song is a complete embarrassment – is rampant. there were comments like (yes, i’m picking on a couple of people here. sorry.): ‘i’m a little freaked out.’ and, ‘why did they have to show us their strap-ons?!’

so, what’s the big deal, here?


Blogger Amy said...

The fact that men dressing up as women is so commonplace (not just at clubs/bars either..think Tootsie, Bosom Buddies, et al.) might be because it is so difficult to hide that it stood out more and had to be mocked in order for it to exist. [i.e. A girl dressed head to toe from the men's department is far less likely to be noticed than a guy clad similarly from the ladies dept.]

The uncomfortableness with the drag king is likely due to the standard "people don't like what they aren't used to" cliche.

And your buddy who questioned the sight of the strap-on apparently has never seen Mrs. Tony Denise. Talk about uncomfortable. Buh.

(Sorry for the long reply)

2/22/2006 01:57:00 PM

Blogger betsy said...

it's definitely that we aren't comfortable with what we aren't used to. i also wonder if there isn't a protectionist aspect to it from both a feminist (whether people realize it or not) and lesbian perspective.

2/22/2006 02:04:00 PM

Blogger Amy said...

Maybe, or maybe the fantasy hits a little too close to home. Never can know what goes on in a girl's mind.

Re: protectionist
Interesting theory. But my money is on New Things Are Scary.

2/22/2006 02:32:00 PM

Blogger Amanda said...

i think a lot goes into it. There are many lesbians who have a deep-rooted distrust and dislike of men, so (a)they don't understand why someone in their community would want to BE one and (b) the kings make them just as uncomfortable as men and they wonder what they're doing in "their" bars, clubs, etc.

Then, on the other end, you've got FTMs that don't associate with lesbians. In fact, they may seriously dislike the community as a whole.

It is so complex its almost too difficult to try and decipher, but i think that you guys are correct in that its prevalence may eventually get folks more used to it (such as with drag QUEENS).

Personally, i've seen some drag queens that were hotter than the hottest gals i know, and i think lots of drag kings are downright sexy. But that's just me, and i kind of like the in-between. It takes all kinds, especially in our community!

2/22/2006 05:01:00 PM

Blogger betsy said...

that's kind of what i was trying to get out regarding the protectionist theory.

as for ftm's, there are also those that are still fully inbedded in the lesbian community.

talk about confusing!

2/22/2006 05:20:00 PM


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